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Finding Your Tribe |
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Last night, I was at a party for a woman celebrating her 50th birthday. She had psychics and card readers and even an Oracle. Wow! My tribe! I went to every one of them for a reading, and it was exhilarating! I love people who do the work I do. There’s a magic when you recognize your tribe.
 This reminds me of a friend I had many years ago. He was taking a stab at being a screenwriter, so I suggested he connect with other people doing the same thing. He refused to speak to other writers. He felt that they would ruin his mojo and that his “jealousy” would get the better of him. He read books about writing, but never took a class and never formally studied. Well, these many years later, he is still writing screenplays. However, he has never sold anything. I’m not saying that some people aren’t self-taught. What I’m saying is that to become something, you have to love it. We can never become what we hate or fear. My screenwriting pal, in a moment of trust, asked me to read his latest work. I began reading, but within the first six pages, I was lost. I had no idea what the story was or who was who. I asked him what he was trying to say. He became defensive. His response? That a reader would understand. To date, a year later, he is still working on this piece. My point? You must embrace your people. This is why I love other psychics. What’s the skinny on psychics? We’re all really vulnerable and can’t “read” ourselves. At the party the other night, one of the readers recognized that I was psychic. She grabbed my arm and asked, “Hey I have a problem. Can you give me a quick take on it?” I smiled. “Sure, he’s no good. Kick him to the curb. He’s too verbally abusive.” She leaned in closer, “Why do I take him back? I mean, I’m doing all these affirmations to boost my self-esteem.” “Because,” I replied, “when any of us make a stand for ourselves, the part of us that is fearful tries to pull us back. It’s familiar and safe. Don’t you think it’s interesting that you allow a man in who’s verbally abusive? Isn’t that really about your own self-talk that you’re trying to overcome? Work on it from within. Then he will go away.”
 Later on, as the evening drew to a close, she and the other readers came to sit in a circle. We traded stories and bonded. I loved it. In fact, I love all of it. This morning I had a reading with a gay client. She and I spoke about her girlfriend being a Libra. When she had phoned me a year ago seeking love, I had seen a Libra, so this was a key point. At the end of the reading, my client mentioned how constricted her mother was in her Catholicism. In that moment I thought about how taking a stand for who you are is a brave thing to do. Coming out of the closet with YOUR truth is key to everything in life. It doesn’t matter if you are gay, psychic, black, Latino, or any minority or group off the “norm.” Most of the time, people who become angry or bitter have lost sight of who they are. Oh…my friend the screenwriter? He’s still holding onto his ideas and his words. But there’s something that he’s missing and I hope you can grasp: You must risk to gain. And none of us can ever really be heard until we do. Today, right this minute, ask yourself this: What am I prepared to stand for? My father used to say that a person who stands for nothing is nothing.
Find your tribe. Join them. Express yourself from a world that supports you. This is what it means to have support.
Tori
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